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I try not to be too didactic with these newsletters. Telling people what to do- even if you know it is for their own good- is largely a waste of time. It is neither effective or persuasive, for the most part. And so I refrain.
But. Sometimes exceptions have to be made. A point I obliquely stress again and again here is that rest is vital. Essential. Yet, I suspect it goes unheeded for the most part, which is a great shame. So, against some of my instincts, I am going to be much more overt and quotation-based as I attempt today to make the case for everyone to relax and take it easy much more often than they do at present.
I think this idea is especially important given that these newsletters go out on Sundays, the day of rest. I believe everyone should fully embrace this day in these terms.
Rest is for me, as with everything worthwhile, something that is an end in itself and not a means. Deep relaxation is one of the things that simply makes life worth living. But as I understand that many still have much school and workplace fostered ‘hustle and grind’ programming floating around inside them, I am going to begin this argument in hustle cultures own terms. Because even if you want massive success and prestige meaningful rest will prove essential in actually getting you to that mountaintop.
Allow me to explain…
The Gospel or Relaxation
As anyone who has ever taken bodybuilding seriously knows, it is during the periods between workouts that the muscles repair and in doing so grow. As anyone who has ever taken an artistic pursuit seriously knows it is during the time away from the desk and the studio- during walks, during naps, during baths- that the Muse whispers in your ear and the good ideas strike you like lightning.
The times outside of the work itself are where the magic happens. Yet the work must be done for these to occur. And for the work to occur, rest must be taken, and taken seriously.
As with so many other dichotomies, the work/rest dichotomy is a false one. The relationship is in fact symbiotic.
The fatal mistake that most of the multitude who have become drunk on hustle cultures intoxicating output make is to see rest as a mere physical necessity (and one that can be ameliorated with prescription stimulants at that).
Seeing rest as a mere inconvenience or an unfortunate negative space to be endured is a mindset that ironically holds the ambitious back. If only there were a story to explain all of this- perhaps an anthropomorphic one- featuring, say, an animal symbolic of steady and consistent progress, for example a tortoise, competing in a race against an animal that symbolises inefficient haste, say, oh I don’t know, a hare. One written in a way that a child could comprehend. If only.
But anyway. This misguided culture of overwork is not a new problem.
In 1899 William James wrote, in an essay called The Gospel Of Relaxation that Americans lived with an ‘inner panting and expectancy’ and so brought this ‘breathlessness and tension’ to the work they performed. Again, consider the athlete and the artist: being tight and wound up and tense during those activities is simply ineffective, if nothing else.
Rest is not a tax, it’s an investment. And like investing it is predicated on patiently waiting for the compound interest to accrue, and sticking to your guns whether the majority move in the opposite direction or not. The investor who wins in the end is the one who manages to stay in the game without burning out and burning through their resources.
Rest is a strategy. Longevity is the key (and thus burnout is the enemy) and so strategic, meaningful, deliberate rest is absolutely essential. It is quite literally the only way, the only known antidote to burnout.
So as work and rest are symbiotic, the only way to truly maximise intentional work and deliberate practice is to also cultivate deliberate rest.
But it goes deeper than that…
Rest and The Good Life
Only in recent history has ‘working hard’ signalled pride rather than shame.
~Nassim Nicholas Taleb.
If I were to indulge conspiratorial thinking I might conclude that the promoting of the getting up ultra-early, working 12+ hour days, push through the pain mentality is being done by figures who deliberately want others to fail. That’s how woeful ineffective all of this is. Maybe this is all a misinformation campaign to eliminate potential sources of competition? Who can say.
Frantic, aimless, perpetual, machine-gunning of energy is simply a woefully poor way to get the target hit. Much better to go the suitcase and telescopic lens and church tower route. The route of hitting the target with a single shot after all of the necessary calm preparation. Assassin and not clueless spree shooter is the way.
But I wonder what’s at the root of the ubiquitous quantity is better than quality misapprehension? Even the most cursory skim through the lives of the masters will yield quotes such as:
The greatest geniuses sometimes accomplish more when they work less.
~ Leonardo Da Vince
Or
Either work all out or rest completely.
John Littlewood, Mathematician
And if you dig even a little into the science of top performance you will find again and again the fact that the human brain is capable at the absolute most of four hours of honest-to-God deep work. The kind of deliberate practice that actually leads to improvement and eventual mastery.
Sure you can add another eight hours of diminishing returns, tiring futile busywork on top of that so you can tick off a metric and brag about the extent of your ‘grind’. But do you actually want to improve or do you want to show off to a bunch of strangers on the internet?
Do you want to do what feels right or do you actually want to achieve what you say you want to achieve?
(This uncharacteristic little bout of tough talk comes because I suspect the young male contingent of my audience need to hear this message the most and so I have to calibrate my tone to what they have been trained to understand. Eventually age teaches you about rest and burnout, but it is a tough lesson to learn through experience. I’m trying to help them avoid that. Women, for what it’s worth, tend to have a bit more sense when it comes to this kind of stuff.)
It all comes down to actually treating yourself like someone you care about. And to reiterate the point yet again: beyond happiness, beyond quality of life and physical well-being, masochistic, self-flagellatory, every-waking-moment work practices are simply ineffective in achieving your ambitions. There is nothing ethical about this kind of work ethic.
Further- what does it say about your self-conception if you treat yourself this way? Life brings suffering enough all on its own without us opting to add on extra portions for no reason. The goal of the work, presumably, is to create a better quality of life for yourself. But cultivate the habit of self-denial that borders on self abuse and you will never be able to enjoy it should this waving mirage of a goal ever actually arrive. You have to take the direct path. And the direct path involves learning to enjoy life now, as much as you are able.
Knowing your limits is strength not weakness. Sleeping when you are tired is sensible. Pursuing hobbies and play and fun is what life is all about.
It’s sad that I have to say all of this, which to my mind all seems obvious to the point of redundancy, but such is the upside-down world that we currently find ourselves in.
The ancients saw leisure as the highest form of living, while also valuing physical fitness, mental agility, honour, wisdom and the arts. It seems we have lost our way from the good life and have become one dimensional. Rest is instrumental in finding our way back.
A Few Practical Tips To End On
‘It is neither wealth nor splendour, but tranquility and occupation, which give happiness.’
~Thomas Jefferson.
As I alluded to at the beginning, this weeks missive is somewhat of a departure from our usual routine, as I feel compelled to give more out-and-out advice. Desperate times call for desperate measures and to my mind the ‘hustle crisis’, to coin a phrase, is pretty desperate indeed.
Being stressed out and overworked does not indicate that you are serious and conscientious. If anything it’s the opposite, a dereliction of duty, a misguided (and often virtue signalling) approach which ends up contributing to the squandering of your gifts. A serious people nurture their talents, unserious people allow them to atrophy via overuse, via running around in circles.
This point is only counterintuitive because of the extent that the world has lost its way.
So what can be done?
Well to my mind there are three obvious remedies, each of which could be the subject of its own newsletter.
Firstly, there is the idea of scheduling rest. Guilt free, unapologetic, fully indulged in rest. Whether it be napping, reading under a tree, whatever helps you to relax and let go of the death-grip that you have on the idea of work.
Second, is to start taking play much more seriously. A change is as good as a rest, as my grandmother used to say and this is profoundly true. Get a proper hobby, one that has scope for improvement and mastery. Something that is rewarding for its own sake. Something that is energising and makes you feel refreshed and filled with a new perspective once your return to work itself.
And lastly, really look at and contemplate the work itself. In my observation overworking comes as a result of doubling down on work that is unfulfilling and lacks meaning as a means of hoping to transcend it. Again, try to get on the direct path.
I know this is easier said than done and I myself have spent many a year in dead-end minimum wage jobs feeling trapped and lost. I get it, I truly do. But you have to at least acknowledge problems and see them for what they are and at least begin the work of self-understanding, self-respect and indeed self-love if you are to ever go about the business of becoming your true self.
Now that’s more than enough self-improvement type advice for one week, I’m off to take a nap on the sofa.
Until next time,
Live Well,
Tom.
A Short Treatise On Rest
One of those posts you read and feel as if it's personally addressed to you.
With no end really in sight for our lockdowns over here in Ireland (we now have the most days under lockdown in Europe), gyms closed, and a travel radius of 5km, it's been difficult to switch off. Especially when the feeling of progress, and the rapid dissolution of time that comes with a true 12-14 hour day coincides with being another day closer to freedom, it's harder than ever to stop working into the evenings.
Because when you work 'hard' (pushing buttons on a keyboard isn't really that hard), time flies by at a rate of knots. Blink and it's lunchtime. Blink again and the sun is gone. One more blink and you've got red eyes and you're back to 00:01.
But deep down I, and everyone else I imagine, know you're right on this. The work becomes easier, the mood becomes brighter, when the days are shorter, and more focused. But working with 100% intensity can be tough to start - your mind resists it - and especially when there isn't really anything to do after work ends (yes, books and walking are obvious examples, but bear with me), you start to get the voice telling you to slow down, take it easy.
You're going to be here all day, nothing else to do, so why not just slow it down a bit - then a 2 hour block of focused work becomes 4 hours of semi work, and so on and so forth.
Either way, as someone who has become aware of his deeply ingrained, schoolboy guilt from not working, abandoned in University and then re-ingrained by hustle culture, and through said awareness has let go of that guilt - I thought I would chuck in my two cents as to why I end up working so many hours.
Given that the post felt like advice from an older, wiser friend, I'm going to go and watch clouds for a bit.
Cheers Tom, great post.
Very insightful article, something I’m aware I need more of but struggle to make happen all the same. In my experience women struggle with this too, albeit in a different way. Last year I put in more work hours than my male colleagues in order to prove myself, but was still made redundant along with other female colleagues in the pandemic. As I live in a rural area, there aren’t many jobs around, so I went freelance, but it’s tough getting work right now. I’m not making much money so I put more hours in to try and make up for it. I work more hours than my partner but because he is paid well he currently handles most of the bills until I am on my feet again, and to make up for this I do all the housework. Basically, I don’t get much time to rest. I’m not resentful as I’m grateful he can support me while I work things out, but I think it’s typical of women to feel guilty or imposter syndrome if they aren’t constantly doing something for someone else. Whenever I ask my girlfriends how they’re doing, they say “busy” like a badge of honour, whereas my male friends say they “haven’t been up to much” or are playing/watching sports or video games. I think when men choose to switch off they have a better mindset for doing so.